Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice by Guy Baldwin - For Fetish And BDSM Pony Play Sex Pleasure
The writings of Guy Baldwin, one of the most respected and knowledgeable people on the subject of the SM/leather/fetish erotic style, have been compiled in Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice.
Issues regarding relationships, the community, the SM experience, and personal transformation, as they relate to this form of play, are addressed.
Unlike many in the mental health field, Guy Baldwin takes the approach that this style of erotic play can definitely be part of a healthy expression of one's sexuality. Many have benefited from his sound advice in seminars, workshops, and through his many published articles. Now, much of Guy Baldwin's wisdom had been published for you in this fetish blockbuster - Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice.
A Daedalus Publishing title.
Guy Baldwin, M.S. is a Los Angeles based psychotherapist who has specialized in working with erotic minorities for the last 20 years. He is perhaps best known for his essays, some of which appear in his second book, TIES THAT BIND: The SM, Leather, Fetish Erotic Style-Issues, Commentaries and Advice. He has also authored THE LEATHER CONTEST GUIDE: A Handbook for Promoters, Contestants, Judges and Titleholders and, most recently, SlaveCraft: Roadmaps for Erotic Servitude. In frequent demand as a prolific author, teacher, mentor and speaker, Guy has traveled the U.S. and Canada extensively to present a wide array of workshops, demonstrations, seminars and lectures to audiences of both players and health-care professionals, alike. In 1989, Guy served concurrently as International Mr. Leather, and as Mr. National Leather Association----the only person ever to do so. In 1999, he was keynote speaker at the Third Leather Leadership Conference held in San Francisco. In 2001, Guy was awarded both the Pantheon and Dominion lifetime achievement awards.
Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice by Guy Baldwin - For Fetish And BDSM Pony Play Sex Pleasure
“In Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice, therapist and leatherman Guy Baldwin offers invaluable insights into our sexual style. Baldwin is intimately familiar with our relationships and community dynamics. His intelligent but accessible style always draws the reader in. Reading one of his books is like having a conversation with a wise and kinky elder of the tribe.” -- Patrick Califia, author of "Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Couples" and "Speaking Sex to Power
"Guy Baldwin's Ties That Bind is of fundamental importance to anyone with serious questions about the leather lifestyle. Nearly every aspect of this potent erotic experience is explored in depth. Phonies and Philistines need not apply, because what Baldwin stresses above all else is personal authenticity and candor." -- Mark Thompson, editor of "Leatherfolk"
“Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice has been in every store I've ever worked at and I never actually picked it up until s.m.u.t. put it in my hands to read. This book is a collection of articles that were written by Guy Baldwin and appeared in drummer magazine. At first I was not really interested in reading articles from old magazines. However, as I started to read through the book I realized that there was some wonderful insight that many people, and not just gay males, would love to come to know. The articles are written from a gay male leather tribe point of view, but he does address this in the his preface, Please take note this is not an instruction book, or a fictional novel so every thing that is written is here for a good reason, and do read any of the editor’s or author’s notes. I recommend this book for people coming out into the BDSM lifestyle leather gay or straight. It is relevant.” - Mike Munrow, SMUT Magazine
“As a hetero male switch, I didn't find Mr. Baldwin's gay male perspective to be at all limiting. As Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice states clearly in the introduction, they could easily have changed a few pronouns and put the book into more universal language, but what would have been the point? Some of the illustrations used gay male examples of SM eroticism (the author must be seriously into boot polish! :) But it was pretty easy for me to mentally replace some of these erotic examples with some of my favorite fetishes as I read the book, to make it apply to me. I'm not sure this book would be a good choice for giving vanila or kink-curious folk an insight into SM, nor do I think that was its primary intention. You pretty much have to already be tapped in to BDSM energy -- it doesn't really even attempt the almost-impossible task of explaining it to people that just aren't wired for it. But it is a great resource for helping people who are already firmly oriented towards these lifestyles to build healthy relationships, and discern healthy from unhealthy behaviors. That's a tremendously valuable resource -- BDSM folk have a really hard time getting straight, critical, and understanding input on difficult relationship issues. I had a chance to have a few conversations with Guy Baldwin at LIL IV in 1989. He is indeed a very intelligent and thoughtful individual, and extremely flashy with a pair of leather floggers, I might add. :) This book is extremely valuable... in my opinion, it is a must-read for any BDSM person who is serious about keeping their BDSM and BDSM relationship healthy.”
“Guy Baldwin's Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice is a wonderful collection of very well written and accessible essays covering the interpersonal aspects of the S&M scene. Guy Baldwin is both a psychotherapist and an experienced S&M practitioner. While the essays were originally written for a gay male S&M magazine, it's easy for women and heterosexual men to read past the pronouns and benefit from his insights. It's one of those books you want to share with your (kinky) friends as soon as you've finished reading it.”
“I am a 54 year old female, heterosexual, submissive. When no one else was listening or writing, Guy Baldwin and other gay leather folk were. These early classics are as good now as then. A part of the magic of Guy Baldwin is that sexuality, yours or his, is irrelevent to the real truths and possibilities of this lifestyle.”
“I feel as if Ties That Bind: The SM/Leather/Fetish Erotic Style: Issues, Commentaries and Advice is the most thought out guide into SM. Full of everyday thoughts and ideas that are shared by all of us. This book consists of information that is applicable to men and women of all ages. In addition, the essays can guide you to a leval of insight and self awareness of a higher level of spirituality. This is a book that I will share with great pride to my teachers and students through their journey of SM.”